" Body language is powerful tool. We had body language before we had speech, and apparently 80% of you understand in a conversation is read through the body, not the words." - Deborah Bull
A gesture is a visible bodily action that may express implicit meaning. It refers to the use of fingers, hands, and arms for expression. It is an important dimension of body language. Gestures may reveal the mindset of the communicator and convey thoughts through voluntary or involuntary physical movements. For instance, if a person is very upset and nervous, his/her hands may tremble. Although most of the gestures that we make are voluntary, we may sometimes send out negative signals by making some inappropriate gestures.
Your posture talks about your personality. It may tell you are a bold, confident, and dynamic person or a timid, submissive, and a servile fellow. Similarly, your body movements give important signals about your personality. Use your posture and body movements to reflect self confidence, maturity, alertness, and physical stamina.
"We Communicate all the time, even when don't realize it. Beware of your body language."- Pat Summit
Remember that body language includes both intentional and unintentional messages. These messages will be easy to comprehend when verbal communication and non-verbal gestures complement each other.
Using positive physical gestures requires a conscious effort and practice but it will definitely be worth it. Positive and appropriate gestures can make us better oral communicators. The following suggestions may help in this regard:
- Gestures should be natural and positive.
- Avoid using gestures to express negative feelings; such feeling should be expressed verbally. For example, if we have to say "no", we should not use fingers or shake our heads to express it.
- Avoid confusing gestures or body movements (biting nails or scratching head)
- Do not use fingers too often,
- Use hands and arms very carefully and effectively.
- While using gestures, be sure that they are consistent with the verbal message and there is no contradiction.
- Learn the cultural patterns of postures and body movements to avoid cross-cultural misunderstandings.
- Maintain proper eye contact with the audience.
- Do not forget the magic of 'smile's
- Try to learn about various postures that prompt or suggest the intention of the other person.
As mentioned earlier, it is not speech alone which enables one to communicate. One's body language can add a lot more to communication. One can speak volumes by gesticulating and silent communicating. One's confidence goes a long way in depicting one's character through his/her body language.
